Dating a man who is a single parent
It shows a patient man who gives a damn and has a loving heart. However, yeah...dating one of these men summons some unique situations sometimes.I already knew I was dating a sociable, nice guy, and my dad is the same way, but I don't know how I failed to predict this easy bond. I recently unearthed a red T-shirt that was definitely not mine in a batch of clean laundry I did at bae's house.When the relationship was brand-spankin' new, a lot of close friends lamented renditions of, "I could never DATE A PARENT." They echoed sentiments of kids being deal breakers. Everyone has a past and brings baggage into a relationship. Although, of course, I find my partner's child a deeply charming, fun, hilarious little human who doesn't qualify as "baggage." You know what I mean.A man willing and thrilled to take on the dad role shows commitment.A few years ago, I started cracking jokes regularly about hot dads.Then when I met a charming, handsome dude with good taste in music and tacos at a secret Santa vinyl swap party last winter, I started dating one.Playing Mother to a series of adult Peter Pans got old, so this kind of attitude is a very welcome change of pace. If your cat got secretly sick and he steps barefoot into a pile of barf, he doesn't love it but he understands that happens (probably because he has experience direct skin-to-someone else's-barf contact before).He also doesn't panic about periods or farts or other body stuff.
I was playing with the kid at a playground near my boyfriend's apartment and when an authority figure from the attached daycare came out to ask if we had permission to be there, I immediately turned to the child. I'm supposed to answer here." I've always been a touch afraid of authority but knew I had to handle the current situation. Conversely, it means you can't let jealousy get to you with exes.
I'd like to say this exercise made me resurrect toxic romantic relationships as healthy friendships, but that hasn't quite happened yet (and with some specific ones, I honestly can't see that ever happening).
More than anything, I think it's helped me recognize the hard fact that all humans have faults and, in general, good intentions. (Though to be fair, I can't take credit for the calendar.
This can be a difficult quality to find in this world of overgrown Peter Pans on the hunt for their own Mother figure—a person to handle all the less savory household duties, remind them to go to the doctor, praise them constantly, hinge their daily or long-term plans on what Pan wants or says he needs.
This situation is different, because he already takes on that role for his child while still taking decent care of himself.