Dating with erectile dysfunction
Viagra produced the requisite hard-ons but was no help at all when this couple couldn’t laugh together or let go of their attachment to having things go a certain way between the sheets. Many couples require some help deepening their intimacy, and therapy can provide the tools. The preceding article was solely written by the author named above.
Joannides again: “When it comes to making love, relationship issues trump d*** issues.” © Copyright 2011 by Jill Denton, LMFT, CSAT, CCS, therapist in Los Osos, California. Any views and opinions expressed are not necessarily shared by Good
I think this is because many guys tend to become very uptight about their penis, what Paul Joannides (author of ) calls “deadwood – the bummer in your pants”.
And depression, anxiety, guilt and other psychological issues are very likely to trigger erectile dysfunction.
“So it’s Friday evening and we’re coming home from a romantic dinner. It’s this deep seated fear that I won’t be able to get an erection 30 minutes from now and it becomes self-fulfilling and self-defeating. ” He was extremely surprised when I suggested that trying to “get control” was precisely the problem.
Viagra did indeed help with his attempts to stave off what he called “hydraulic failure.” But the blue pills were only part of the picture for this couple.
We had one more date, and after that he didn’t call for a month.
I finally told him I was moving our status back to friendship.