Just because I get guitar lessons doesn’t mean I’m going to be performing like Clapton any time soon.
And just because you bought Finding the One Online and rewrote your profile and tried my email technique doesn’t necessarily mean that you nailed it.
And it makes sense since the most attractive men get 11 times more email than the lower-rated guys.
The point is, Mellie, you’re dealing with men who are at the top of the dating totem pole — 35-40 year old cute, successful guys in New York City.
I don’t know where you pulled up that women get a 60% response rate — maybe one of my customer testimonials — but the reason I used it is because it’s unusual and impressive.
You can’t judge yourself against the best, no more than I judge my writing on this blog against Philip Roth. And if you think YOU’VE got it bad, go check out the numbers for men who are writing to women.
In fact, they echo the same debate that often goes on in general self-help or dating advice.When I met him, he was on the sixth or seventh version of his profile!While the average person probably has a lot of potential matches out there, some of us are different in various ways and there will simply be fewer who find us appealing (this was definitely true for me).No more than a man who is 55 should be too surprised that you’re not replying to his query.3. According to the aforementioned blog post, the average woman will get a 30% response rate from the most attractive men.The least attractive women get less than a 10% response from the most attractive men.