Getting back in the dating game after divorce
For years after my divorce, I couldn’t imagine going on a date with another man. Then, as the years passed, I learned to love my independence.The idea of letting another man into my life simply wasn’t appealing.Most older men are not going to look like George Clooney. There are so many other factors that are better predictors of relationship success. Maybe it’s time to reach out and talk to that person next to you? What advice would you give to the other women in our community? When it comes to dating after divorce, it pays to be proactive. Finally, don’t feel any pressure to jump back into the dating game until you are truly ready. The canvas of dating has changed in some ways mainly through the use of apps, which has profoundly affected people’s lives and how they date.But, what women want and need as well as their fears and who they turn to for comfort has also affected the dating game.Finally, in all the upheaval that divorce can and often brings, women still are looking for a long term relationship (65%) but not necessarily marriage (13%).This is reflective of hope and the positive things that being in a relationship brings – companionship, comfort, consistency, intimacy, and deep love.
This is not to say that people expect to get divorced, but they are not living under the cloak of being a ‘divorcee.’ They recognize that although it can and often is challenging to get back out there, divorce is not their last chapter, but just a chapter in the book called Life. The survey indicated that women feel scared (68%), insecure (64%), overwhelmed (61%, excited (68%), confident (40%), and hopeful (68%).
Yet, considering all of that and the mixture of emotions, what do I see? Despite feeling fearful, insecure and scared as most people do, they still are hopeful about their future, love, a new relationship, and life after their divorce.
It is possible to hold two opposing feelings – for example, hope and fear – and still learn how to move through your divorce and embrace (eventually) dating.
The best way to meet interesting men is to be an interesting person. Are there places where you could share your passions with others? Recovering from a divorce after 60 is a long and difficult process. When you do feel like dating, try not to take it too seriously.
) of matrimonial life, it can be difficult for newly single men and women to get back into the dating game.