I am dating an introvert
Dating, like all social interactions, drain our limited supply of “people” energy.I’ve been on dates where I really was enjoying myself, but soon, that dreaded introvert hangover struck.Introverts aren’t looking for simple give-and-take interactions.We’re looking for a connection that is mind-to-mind.. Private by nature, many introverts just don’t feel comfortable talking about themselves to people they don’t know well.At least, not as eloquently as they sounded in our minds. We know it’s on us to make our preferences and needs known.What we are asking for is that you’ll do your best to understand.Many introverts, especially highly sensitive introverts, have unique needs that may not make sense to other people.For example, I hate spending the night at other people’s houses.
Feed our intellectual side, and our hearts will follow.
Dating can be draining for anyone, but for introverts, who get easily overstimulated because of the way their brains respond to dopamine, it can be downright exhausting.
Give us some time alone, and like a dehydrated flower that’s been watered, we’ll perk back up. We can be social, but for us, it’s all about dosage (see #4). At times, it can be hard for us to get our thoughts and feelings out.
In my mind, the first three dates were usually a wash. If you’re dating an introvert, give us time to open up.
Soon enough, our quirky humor, thoughtfulness, or altruistic nature will shine through.