I am dating my ex
Instead of comparing yourself to others, look at how much you've grown, and be grateful for what you do have.
If you always want what others have, you will lose your authentic self and you will never have enough." Sarah Schewitz, Psy D is a psychologist with over 10 years of experience helping couples and individuals improve and change their patterns in love and relationships.
"As a matchmaker, this is the number one thing that holds people back from finding the right one," Trombetti explains.
"I always say 'everyone is hung up on someone, whether it's real or in their head.' Don't be hung up on your ex comparing everyone to him because you have feelings of love being stoked on a regular basis by your ex." If you know your ex isn't the one for you, the best course of action is probably to avoid getting back together and try your very best to move on.
This isn't to say that you aren't complete without each other, but if it was a loving relationship, there may always be a part of them with you and vice-versa. While, "it's OK to fall back in love with your ex if things change," Trombetti says it's also important to remember that "you broke things off for a reason.
"You don't fall back in love with an ex," Heather Kristian Strang, spiritual guide and matchmaker, tells Elite Daily. Don't let your emotions take over and wind up back where you were pre-breakup the first time.
First there’s shell shock, followed by denial, and then some combination of paralysis, anger, and loneliness.
If you haven't already, set strong boundaries between yourself and your ex.
"Once you love someone, unless your respect for them is destroyed, you can always love them again," Susan Trombetti, matchmaker and CEO of Exclusive Matchmaking, tells Elite Daily.
"This is the person that knows your hopes, dreams, and secrets. Why do you think some people are always threatened by their partner's ex?
But if your relationship was a healthy, happy, stable one, and you ended it for reasons that, now, seem like part of the past, there's no harm in trying again.
Three months deep into my break-up, I have experienced almost all of them.